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Against all odds

Anonymous Australian Single Mum Story | 05 February 2017




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As I sat there watching

I couldn't help but think of life as a single mother

I have been watching the Austrian Open this past week and noted along with a million viewers that there has been a shift in the game as we know it.

Top seeded players such as Andy Murray, Novak Djokovic and Angeline Kerber have all. Wen knocked out in the first week.

Novak Djokovic is seeded number 2 and among all his many achievements is a six time Australian Champion.

Andy Murray is the world number one player and so is Angelique Kerber.

However we watched as Dennis Istomin ranked number 117 defeated Novak.

We witnessed Angelique Kerber loose to Coco Wandewegne seeded number 35 and Andy Murray lost to Mischa Zverev seeded number 30.

single mothers can raise their children to be the most effective human beings in the world - Image source: Bigstock.com
single mothers can raise their children to be the most effective human beings in the world - Photo source: Bigstock.com

As I sat there watching probably with my mouth wide open in amazement I couldn't help but reflect and think of life as a single mother.

We are faced with insurmountable stacks such as; "children from divorced parents are more likely to suffer negative outcomes" and "never married parents tend to raise children worse than divorced single parents."

I am not ignorant to the challenges single mothers are faced with daily with raising their children for I am one myself. However I don't believe or agree that we should be labelled and our children boxed in due to our status.

I choose instead to live and raise my children without limitation or expectation.

I choose instead to live and raise my children without limitation or expectation - Image source: Bigstock.com
I choose to raise my children without
limitation or expectation
Photo source: Bigstock.com

From my own point of view I don't believe that Dennis Istomin, Coco Wandeweghe and Mischa Zverev got on the court that day with a defeated mind set. I strongly believe they were determined to give it their best against all odds.

Tennis is a lone sport in the sense that unlike team sports there is no one there to cheer you on and encourage you on the court.

Players have to have a strong mindset and belief system in themselves to get them through.

Life as a single mum is very similar in that way that we usually don't have someone cheering us on and we have to make crucial decisions on our own regarding our children and lifestyles.

Dennis Istomin's said to the commentators after his victory that " I feel sorry for Novak because I was playing good today." He is now ranked number 33.

Against all odds, single mothers can raise their children to be the most effective human beings in the world. Against all odds our children can stand out against all the negativity predicted over them and be the best children in the school, at soccer, dance class, daycare, university.

The world is waiting for us to fail because the odds are stacked against us.

I am determined not to be another statistic but to raise my children well with with what I have against all odds.

I have set my mind to finish well - against all odds.




An Australian single mum

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What does it mean to be a single mum?Of course, the

kids

are the most important thing in a single mum's life. Kids are the focus and always have been. But along with the children, there are other matters that can confuse a single mum's life.

Centrelink

plays a big part of a single mother's life, mainly because this is where a large percentage of single mums get their finances from. Centrelink are the source from where the

single mother pension

, or as it is otherwise known, the single parent payment comes from. The single mother pension is a subsistence amount, but just the same, it is money to live on, and so it is important, no matter if it is called single parent payment, single mother pension or whatever Centrelink welfare classes it at the time

Often, single mums come out of a

divorce

or defacto relationship only to find that their troubles have just begun, and find that their first step leads them towards Family Law - it's time to engage a lawyer.
There are more than just Centrelink finance problems to worry about, as mentioned before, but also

child custody

issues. Child custody is something that hits right at the heart of

single mums

. If a single mother's ex husband or ex partner has been a domestic violence perpetrator, the mum may be greatly worried about child custody. They worry that their kids won't be safe with their spouse, who has already proven to be abusive because they caused

domestic violence

, which resulted in a divorce or separation.

Even so,

Family Court

will often still order a form of child custody named

Shared Parenting

. Shared Parenting is a form of child custody division of time or parental responsibility between the parents. Mother's often look for a good divorce lawyer to try to avoid share parenting with an abusive ex-spouse after divorce, however in many cases Shared Parenting is still the outcome after the divorce, no matter how good the divorce lawyers have been. They will often settle for visitation at a contact centre or access centre where fathers or mothers are supervised during child custody access.

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