The hidden struggles of a single Mum

Why couldn’t you work things out?

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Single mum stigma is real
Single mum stigma is real

Single mums have it tough. But not the type of tough you automatically think of.

Being both the mother and father to our children isn’t the hard part.

Having full responsibility for absolutely everything isn’t the hard part.

Having no time out isn’t the hard part.

Dealing with toxic abusive ex’s isn’t the hard part.

The hard part is accepting that most women don’t want to be friends with you because you’re a threat to their marriage/relationship.

Some women think single Mums want their man
Some women think single Mums want their man

Accepting that a lot of men avoid you because you are a strong and independent alpha female and they prefer helpless submissive women who need them not want them. Despite having no other choice than to be strong and independent.

Accepting that other people judge you for leaving your marriage/relationship even if it was toxic or abusive.

People love to judge single mothers because they’re insecure
People love to judge single mothers because they’re insecure

Accepting that other mums avoid you because they think you’re negative when you’re just exhausted and need someone to talk to.

Accepting that you will never be part of the in crowd because you don’t represent the perfect image that they strive to uphold.

Group of perfect mothers
Group of perfect mothers

Accepting that other single mums will judge you on how well you handle being a single mum and if you dare appear to be confident and happy you know that rivalry and jealousy are just around the corner.

Accepting that you don’t really fit in anywhere.

Be kind and just say hi to single Mums
Be kind and just say hi to single Mums

So next time you stumble across a single mum say hi, give her a hug, tell her she’s doing an awesome job and don’t make any assumptions or judgements. Because we have it hard enough as it is without all the hidden struggles.

An Australian single mum and member of the Australian Single Mum Support Facebook Group 

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